
Royal etiquette can be an intense maze of rules and egos and with the announcement of Prince William’s engagement to Kate Middleton, it’s about to get a little stickier. The tradition and respect that is engendered by a person’s position and closeness to Queen Elizabeth dictate that some members of the Royal Family have to curtsy (or bow) to each other.
Of course, everyone bends at the knee for the Queen herself, but with Prince Charles marriage to Camilla Parker Bowles, the hard feelings some had toward Camilla prompted the Queen to revise the “pecking” order of who gives one and when a curtsy is required.
To some, it may seem bizarre in the 21st century that anyone is curtsying to anyone else, but behind palace doors they’re at it like mad. And who gets curtsied to matters a great deal, for in the Royal Family one-upmanship is rife.
In 2005 the Queen reworked the palace precedent of having the wife of the future King (Camilla) only get curtsied to if Prince Charles was present. If he was not in the room, she went to the bottom of the immediate family list – behind Princesses Anne, Alexandra, Beatrice and Eugenie. With this new wrinkle in the rulebook, Camilla could be the one curtsying to Kate if Charles is not in the room, which completely breaks with Royal tradition – considering Camilla is married to Charles and that he is truly next in line for the throne (albeit not the popular choice) that is pretty remarkable.
‘The problem is of the Queen’s making,’ says the courtier. ‘She broke an iron rule in order to placate her daughter, Anne, and cousin, Alexandra, at the time of Charles’s marriage to Camilla. But it’s a mess, and certainly Anne won’t be curtseying to Kate any time soon.’
Brian Hoey agrees. As the Princess Royal’s official biographer, he knows her better than most. ‘Kate shouldn’t take fright with Princess Anne,’ he says. ‘She’ll be extremely formal with her, that’s the way she is. But she’ll be treated with courtesy and respect.’
This is so out dated and in the end, it’s an unfortunate situation for Kate, who will already face opposition just because she is a “commoner” much in the way that Princess Diana did.
Good luck navigating that mess, Kate!